Do you know your date's soul? By "soul" I mean that immaterial, spiritual part of you that's deeper than your physical appearance. It's even deeper than your intellect or logical ability to reason. Your soul houses your deepest desires. These desires possibly have the greatest impact on your values and govern why you do what you do on a daily basis.

It's common to want to rush into a relationship with a date you find outwardly attractive. But it's important to slow down and become familiar with your date's soul, because your

compatibility with his or her soul is the real measure of whether you can develop a lasting relationship together.

Here are some fun, probing questions that you can ask to help you become more intimate with your date's soul:

Some may consider the following questions too personal for a first date. Keep these questions at the ready as you get to know the other person. Please don't fire all the questions in rapid succession like a police interrogator. Be as natural and conversational as possible.

Of course, I can't guarantee that someone will give you honest answers to your questions. Your job will be to watch and analyze whether their actions reflect their words.